*tap* *tap*

Regis? Where are you?

1:17 PM | stace_m | url | #

In other news I am coughing. Soon my spleen is going to come through my ears. Hooray!

*ploop*

7:46 AM | Trace | url | #

There are certainly many such alleged reports. I myself have some photos of Anji-sightings, unfortunately they are all severely blurred.

12:09 PM | stef | url | #

As hot as ever.

-disappears muttering about darthvade-

10:48 AM | stace_m | url | #

Lol I think that might be a picture I took too. :) That's from Jono's site? Not the picture in the paper, the picture of the picture in the paper. Sorry I didn't send it Jussy. Hahaha. I was actually supposed to be there that night. Phew.

Oh and Stef - yummmm guava jelly. You know you like it.

7:55 AM | Trace | url | #

Is that Anji?

1:16 AM | Jus | url | #

Well, Trace I didn't want to say anything then, and I eh saying anything now...but it DID involve guava jelly and a camel...

11:41 PM | stef | url | #

I don't think you ever are the same person after any experience. Sigh.

a. Ent. You have no idea how close that is to home. Hah.
b. Hmmmmm. I dunno... grey area.

Someone told me the other day most of my male friends have probably thought about me in some fantasy or another.
Spooky. I decided not to make little survey of it in case it freaked me out.
DON'T ANSWER. Oh my god.

9:29 PM | Trace | url | #

Exactly. Might as well have sex and get on with it or over it.

-Clarification-

Because

a) If it's already at that point where the 'friendship' is 'ruined', then you have nothing more to lose and only pleasure to gain (selfish hedonistic interpretation)

b) Between man and woman there can be no friendship... (Wilde: Translation - all 'friendships' are just relationships waiting to happen)

Not sure which of these I buy into.

9:29 AM | stace_m | url | #

Damned if you do, damned if you don't. Would people rather the usual route of going ahead with the sex and then jumping ship afterwards?

Great way to shift responsibility for initiation to the other party, if you ask me.

Okay, back to the cave.

1:14 PM | stef | url | #

The friendship is already ruined when it comes to either having to say that line or fuck the other person ragged. Since it's fucked either way, the thinking person would at least get laid first... right?

Has anyone ever come back from that point and maintain a lasting friendship devoid of uneasy "what ifs" or sexual tension?

Eh, I guess it's not really *ruined*, just really dysfunctional (like everything else).

*throws rock into cave*

7:56 PM | Jus | url | #

So true.

It's like that goddamn "I don't want to hurt you" line.

For fuck's sake.

7:45 AM | stace_m | url | #

More like, "I can see myself having sex with you BUT I don't want you to be mad at me...ever.... especially when I emotionally fuckwit you...which I probably will do"

It is inevitable... (Morpheus voice)

7:41 PM | Trace | url | #

Isn't "I don't want to ruin the friendship" (and variants) just another way of saying, "I just can imagine myself having sex with you. Ever."

1:00 PM | stace_m | url | #

Posted over at mindsight, but thought it was also relevant here:

To: George "Umbala" Joseph of the "Today Show"

To your question of what real solutions are at hand to address the rampant crime in our society, and also to the question of whether we are truly a nation of murderers...

One thing struck me of particular importance when I learned of what happened to Mark Rattan, the fact that no one was notified before the police apprehended the men due to their own carelessness, no tip, no alarmed passerby making a point to alert the authorities hours earlier. You mean to tell me, that a young boy can be stabbed and forced into his automobile in Curepe junction, in front of Royal Castle no less, without ANY citizen realizing something was afoot? No glance passed that boy’s way that returned the possibility he was in trouble?

I believe it our duty, especially in this day and age for Trinidad & Tobago, to look out not only for ourselves but for our neighbour, and I am utterly ashamed of my fellow Trinidadians if one saw and did nothing, or if because they were “minding their own business” ignored it entirely. This is a time more than ever that we should be our brother’s keeper, we have a civic and moral duty to keep vigilant and take an active role as citizens to protect our people. You ask in your programme almost daily, “what can be done?” I hear the words POLICE, and GOVERNMENT echoed time and time again by the callers, and of course there is no denying their failures and the desperate need for reform, but instead of continuing to blame others for our woes I wonder what changes would emerge if the average citizen of this once-beloved island looked no further than himself. We say we’re tired, sick to death of the downward spiral our country is caught in, yet it seems for all our big talk we’ve already accepted defeat, or worse - deluded ourselves into believing that since this “crime” hasn’t touched us personally it exists somewhere outside our reality.

I truly believe this is evidenced by our “seeming” priorities - just minutes ago in i95.5’s news segment I heard Denise Plummer express her concerns for how the crime will impact 2006’s Carnival. Why do we even care? Is a “safe” Carnival so important to our people - what of the other 363 days of the year? It amazes me - and I believe a truly telling fact - that when government puts forth so much effort to ensure a safe Carnival, and does so well to ensure citizens’ feel safe to party and make Mas, that we are all sated. Do we really buy so deeply into this utterly false sense of security for 2 days of the year that we can continue to live in this suspended state of disbelief (to the crime erupting all around us), until we can reconfirm the illusion the following year?

Do we really care because it will hurt our tourism, hurt our country in global sense? I submit to you that we do not - it is in my humble opinion that we care because if something were ever to happen to disrupt our “regular” way of life we couldn’t go on pretending everything is alright, or that it’s not a problem because it hasn’t touched close to home. And what more permeating an event than Carnival. In that respect, I only use Carnival as an example for the more mundane distractions we use to perpetuate the illusion every day. We go to a party, or to a wedding, or to get some chicken in Curepe junction, and everything seems okay, life goes on as usual. We tell ourselves that if we look after ourselves and mind our own business everything will be fine. If we “hear” about something happening we’ll feel bad, but quickly put is aside because if we stop for a moment to let the ugliness and desperation set in it will turn our world upside down.

I implore your listeners, and the people of this country to stop pretending everything will be alright, or to continue to shift blame by doing a lot of talk - take an active role in the protection of not only your life, but the life of your brothers, your sisters - your fellow man and woman. Realize this IS your problem, and if things continue to go down this path every one of us will know first hand the loss which so many in our community have already suffered. By doing nothing we ARE becoming a nation of murderers, our inaction and complacency serve no other than the murderers themselves.

12:35 AM | Jus | url | #

loosh
Originally uploaded by nosuchsoul.

I have an excuse. I've been umm, working. A lot. Thanks to DailyCandy and other press bits I have been swamped with orders...which is not a bad problem to have.

We're coming to brave the mess that is Trinidad from the 17th - 23rd. I'm bringing a gun, and I've definitely got practice.

4:33 AM | Jade | url | #

*raises eyebrow*
Okie dokes will wait with bated breath for that. :)

7:24 AM | Trace | url | #