Firstly, it helps to do what? Make you feel better? Make you "understand"? It's not that you don't understand or not recognise it in hindsight. You seem pretty knowledgeable about it from the get-go judging from the affinity you find with this site.

Yes it helps me "understand". Considering I'm still in the healing process and probably will be for a while, it ameliorates my perspective on males, relationships and the male/female psyche. The affinity comes from this same recognition of experiences and different personalities. The knowing that you're not alone in your fight and that someone has some semblance of a better picture, while you're confused and stupid (or not ) and stuck in your own little universe floating around not really sure of anything. It can clear up many a doubt, or even create bigger ones, but it's basically how one interpretes all of this information. I love it because it opens a wider field of vision.

You're telling me that once you've realized you made a bad decision with someone you'll never ever go back and do the same thing with someone else, or (god forbid) the same person? If you say "no" then I'll drop everything and say that you win this battle because I'm honestly not figuring that into this equation. (Yes I know you said "at least try" but that doesn't count - in this sense, "trying" simply means an extended battle with yourself before giving into whatever similar situation you had before).

You may do it again yes, but you will snap out of it a little sooner and realise what you're doing. It's an on-going process. This depends again on the situation. I can say "no" to many things now than ever before, and as I go along I may find more things to say "no" to or "yes". At the end of it all you still have to make decisions for yourself. Choice. You have to think for yourself.

Oh I can understand the need for identifying with others. But that severely limits your description of "bible" dear.

Uhm what is my description of "bible"? I don't think I actually gave a definition of my "bible". If you were wondering, it's a slang I use - . Something you live by, something you check every day, but something you stillhave a choice about. Of course...that's warped but it's still a slang.

I asked if it was necessary for girls in general to somehow use that for self-protection.

And I said yes rather clearly. Check back. Funny you still don't get why you don't get it about self-protection. It ain't no airtight container but sheesh. *knocks on skull*

Especially articles like these.

It's reality. Maybe you too sheltered/inexperienced to understand that one. If you find something great then wonderful. That's good, but there are cases when this is exactly as stated. Bullshit talk from guys.

Yes I know it's a rant. But I don't think that you do.
Huh? So are these your real opinions or are you just talking out of your ass?

Once again, I'll stop right here if you tell me that you'll take it to heart and slap down the next guy who wooes you with similar words

Slapping.

Me (from before):Hell no it isn't seen as an aberration for them not to finish last...We love nice guys. Nice guys are great, but not the ones who form the basic specimen sample of that article. The article heading is : Why Nice Guys are OFTEN such Losers. Note word..often. It isn't fixed in stone. All of these things have exceptions.

So what, now you're saying that it's not strange anymore for nice guys to come out on top, and yet you're saying that it's still the exception?That statement is an affront to logic and I'll have nothing to do with it.

Uhhhhhhh? Que? Point is. Some nice guys are nice some are fucking losers. *snicker*

You say "guidelines", I say "opinion". I think we see where the fundamental difference is.

We do? Did you really read that article or are you just bluffing? Those are guidelines. They can be followed or not. Again. Choice.

You'll be hard pressed to find a loser who matches every one of those descriptions (although I believe that they're out there). I agree that that guys are guilty of such behaviour, but this writer poses the situations in the extreme. It's easy to agree with an extreme. What happens when it's not so clear cut?

Choice (for gazillioth time). Grey matter. Use it! It's meant to spoon feed your soul up to a point and then after it's still your fucking life. Do whatever you want...consequence inevitable good or bad, but you had had the different perspective.

Me? Bitter? My dear Chan, are you saying that you're not? Ah. Interesting. Ruffled feathers don't mean extra issues...given the purpose of the site I'd say that identifying closely with the writings and rantings do.

What's this switch on the issue about? I never said anything about me. Weak shot.
Did I say extra issues?
Ooooohhhh am all aghast. Cheap shot but it bounced off.

And I don't presume to be a "nice guy". I've been called "bastard" by some and "cool" by others. I'm just a guy who wanted to blog.

*in Q3 unidentified voice that says stupid things* Defense!

Alas I must stop here, I've already expended much energy and time on this, but I didn't think it could wait, and am also afraid that if I go back tos leep I'll have another fucked up nightmare. Does anyone know what earthquakes and tidal waves signify in dreams? P r e m o n i t i o n ? God forbid.

Last night we lost in our Q3 game, but we put up a good fight (for people who have not played) nevertheless and had fun. Once we girls step up our gaming skills we shall be unstoppable! Who's up for it?

*scratches mosquito bite on foot*

I have a fucked week ahead, so, I'll be out of commission. (Hopefully). E-mail me.